The 24 Laws of Attraction
The ability to attract women is one of the most sought after and valuable skills for any man to acquire. These 24 laws will help you better understand women, and learn a few secrets that could change your outlook on attraction forever. This is the first part of a potential two-part series. I hope you guys enjoy reading it.
DON'T TRY TO BE THE BEST
You don't have to be the coolest guy in the room. When you try to hard, you come across as fake or needy. Girls aren't looking for a guy who seems like they need to message there ego's. Only an insecure guy, feels the need to boast or brag. Let other more boisterous men make a fool of themselves. Loudness is a poor substitute for confidence.
HAVE AN ENTOURAGE
When you enter any type of social scene with other people, you instantly make yourself appear more valuable. This is especially true if you have other women with you. This will create curiosity, and will social proof you before you even say anything. When girls see other girls that like you, they think "all these girls can't be wrong about him." Walk in front of your group.
CONCEAL YOUR INTENTIONS
This one is absolutely crucial. Most girls aren't going to respond to a line like this, "I think your hot do you want to have sex." It may work in a satirical movie, but this is real life. You can't let a girl know what your thinking, even if it's pretty obvious. The best thing to do is be subtle and vague. Show a girl that you might be interested, but leave her guessing until you've finally hooked up or are in a relationship.
ALWAYS SAY LESS THAN NECESSARY
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Girls don't want to hear you talk about yourself. Bragging about your accomplishments isn't going to get you anywhere. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish. Let her talk. Women love to talk about themselves, and they appreciate somebody who will listen. This doesn't mean you become her emotional tampon. But show her that you can connect with her on an emotional level, and you'll be well on your way to a good night.
SO MUCH DEPENDS ON REPUTATION- GUARD IT WITH YOUR LIFE
Reputation is one of the cornerstone of attraction. When your reputation precedes you, then your job is half done. This is especially true in college or any kind of reoccurring social scene. If girls hear from other girls that you're a great guy, then you won't have to convince them. They will want to know you before you even approach. Here's something even better. When your reputation is strong enough, some girls will have already made the decision to sleep with you before you even speak. Don't do anything that will Jeopardize your reputation.
COURT ATTENTION AT ALL COST
While it's important to not TRY and stand out, it's more important to APPEAR to stand out. Don't let yourself get lumped into the ever growing group of uninteresting and normal guys. Stand out through your confidence, the people around you, and the uniqueness of your personality.
GET YOUR FRIENDS TO DO THE WORK FOR YOU, BUT ALWAYS TAKE THE CREDIT
it can sometimes work in your favor if you let your friends do the talking for you. If somebody "puts you on," they are basically social proofing you. They are saying that I think he's a great guy and you should too. Sometimes your friends can bring you together with a girl without you having to do much work. In this instance, you can reap all the rewards. But don't forget to thank your friends, or return the favor when they need it.
MAKE WOMEN COME TO YOU
A man who is constantly on the fruitless pursuit of woman is unattractive.Your ultimate goal should be having girls chasing you. It's possible. You just have to become the confident, dominant, fun, and interesting guy that girls are attracted too. You want to put yourself in a situation where a girl is qualifying herself to you. You aren't trying to convince her that you're the man for her. She should be convincing you that she's the women for you. You should know what you want, and she has to prove if she meets those qualifications.
MASTER THE ART OF TIMING
"never seem to be in a hurry- hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually." Men who look like they are always in a rush are not attractive to women. When you approach a girl, do not hurry. Walk slowly because it makes you seem sure of yourself. When you move in for a kiss, take it slow. When you escalate in the bedroom, move slow. Being in a hurry is the easiest way to get rejected. Learn to hold back when the time is not right, and immediately seize the opportunity when it is.
INFECTION: AVOID THE UNHAPPY AND UNLUCKY
"You can die from someone Else's misery- emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster." If you want to get better with girls you have to associate yourself with guys who are good with girls. If your friends aren't good with girls, and aren't willing to learn to become better than you need to find some new friends. The best way to learn "game" is by being around guys who are already good. You can observe what they do and learn from them. Having a mentor speeds up the process exponentially, and can even produce better results.
ENTER ACTION WITH BOLDNESS
Be sure of yourself every time you approach or attempt to escalate with any woman. Your doubts and hesitations will make you appear unconfident and weak. "Timidity is dangerous; better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity." Girls admire and are attracted to the bold; no women likes the timid.
USE SELECTIVE HONESTY
Don't feel the need to pour your heart out and answer every woman's question directly. A direct answer is less attractive than a vague one. Girls find guys attractive who create a challenge for them. While you shouldn't lie, you shouldn't be telling a woman everything about you when you first meet. Don't talk about you ex's and don't focus on your faults.
IGNORE THINGS YOU CANNOT HAVE
If a girl rejects you, do not hang on your failure. Showing that you are upset or hurt gives her all the power over you. You can't always control the outcome, but you can control your actions. By ignoring the one girl and talking to others, you make her wonder why you suddenly lost interest. She might also feel like she made the wrong decision and will become more attracted to you.
ACT LIKE A SPY
Knowing about the girl your interested in is critical. You have to be able to gather Intel. It's best to learn all the important things you can about a girl in the few minutes you're talking with her. Also figure out if she has a boyfriend without asking directly. Too many guys have spent hours with girls only to find they have a boyfriend. Your mission should be to gather enough information to set up a date in the near future, or seal the deal that night.
"Those who hesitate masturbate." When guys are interacting with girls they are scared to go all the way. They don't want to escalate because they feel that all the work they've put in will be destroyed. Some guys will make out with a girl and then not take it any further. If you keep making out with a girl and nothing else, then she will lose interest. You have to be willing to take that next step because she's normally not going to do it for you.
USE ABSENCE TO INCREASE A WOMEN'S INTEREST
This is crucial. To much exposure makes you less valuable. Having other activities and passions in your life is highly attractive. If you keep your availability scarce, a girl will be more attracted to you. A girl doesn't want you to hang on her shoulder. She wants her space just like you. In your absence, she will be forced to think about you. When you finally do meet up, she will be that much more interested.
CULTIVATE AN AIR OF UNPREDICTABILITY
Girls are attracted to guys that they can't predict. When you say or do something that she didn't expect, you create an element of mystery and you keep things interesting. If she can predict your every move or if you follow scripted pick up lines, she will quickly grow bored and move on to another more interesting guy.
DO NOT BUILD FORTRESSES TO PROTECT YOURSELF ISOLATION IS DANGEROUS
You have to be willing to get out there. If you are an introverted person, than that could be one of the main reasons your not having success with women. Mingle into social circles, learn from people around you, and approach, approach, approach. Keeping yourself isolated will make you socially awkward and destroy your interactions with girls.
KNOW WHO YOU'RE DEALING WITH DO NOT OFFEND THE WRONG PERSON
If the girl your going after is in a relationship, know who the other man is. Having relationships with married women can be dangerous. If you mess with the wrong persons girl, you can find yourself in serious trouble. Imagine you found out your girl was cheating on you with another guy. What if you knew this guy and had easy access to him? What would you do? Know who you're dealing with.
CONTROL A WOMAN'S OPTIONS
Do not give a women the opportunity to say no. Asking yes or no questions, are uninteresting and will produce undesired results. Instead tell a women what to do without being over dominant or controlling. For example, instead of "Do you want to dance with me," say "This is my favorite song. Dance with me." Reducing options puts you in control of the conversation and the interaction.
RE- CREATE YOURSELF
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores women. Be the master of you own image rather than letting others define it for you. Doing so will make you seem dominant, confident, and in complete control. All of which are highly attractive to any women.
SURRENDER TACTIC: TRANSFORM WEAKNESS INTO POWER
Don't fight over any girl. If another man is in a relentless pursuit of the same girl, then fall back. His persistence and desperation will make you seem more in control. She will become less attracted to him and more attracted to you.
CONCENTRATE ON YOUR STRENGTHS
Do not spread yourself too thin. You can improve your weaknesses, but your strengths will always outweigh them. Be good at a lot and excellent at something. Having one enormous strength will allow a girl to over look smaller and less significant faults.
LOOKS ARE NOTHING
Looks are not very important to women. They are far more attracted to your confidence and personality. Make sure you are well groomed and nicely dressed, but do not focus on things you can't change, such as, height and facial structure. Focusing on these trivial aspects will produce insecurities and self doubt. Focus instead on your confidence.
This article is authored by Chris Adams. If you enjoyed this post, then check out my site http://www.gettingthegirl.org.
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